Relationship 101

BIBLE VERSE OF THE DAY!!!

Amos 3:3 How can the two walk together, except they agree?



Last night, three conversations left me asking, “How do two people end up sharing the rest of their life together?” Upon reviewing one of the conversations, the word ‘goal’ stuck out to me. Two people sharing common interest also share common goals and those goals cause them to agree and be on one accord. Considering, all the successful relationships that I know of personally and through media, the principle of agreement equalling a successful relationship is the principle.

Once you accept God’s will (goal) for your life, it is amazing how your relationship with Him becomes much smoother. You are no longer working against Him but aligning with Him.


When it comes to having a relationship with another person, we are always being told to make sure that you have an understanding with the person you are with. That is some very sound advice. It’s much easier getting along with someone that you share common interest and goals with. It is hard for a man or woman that desires a family to be with someone who doesn’t want kids. (I just thought about how Brad Pitt left Jen because she didn't want kids and now he is continue to go strong with Angelina Jolie - the principle works) It is even harder being someone who desires to please God , trying to maintain a relationship with someone where God is not a priority in their life.

I recently read an article about the black church keeping black women single because they were looking for men in the church who share their passion for God and left not finding them. My response is that if they simply wanted a husband they could go outside the church and find one. However, I do believe there would be many issues waiting for them. (Side note: the woman who brought up this argument hadn’t attended church since she was 6,  had limited research and was misinformed about the many mega churches who currently have more males than females.) Nonetheless, there is a reason why there are so many verses discussing one’s selection of companionship whether it’s a friendship, church family or someone you desire to marry.  In addition, I think it is no mistake that these verses are centered on similar interest and goals.


Now let me make myself clear, common interest and goals don’t bring total peace in a relationship. Even two people who want children might disagree on how to raise them. Nonetheless, a compromise is obtained easier when the goal is the same. In this example, I am sure both parents eventually would be willing to try the other’s disciplinary tactic if it ensured a well behaved child.

If you would have asked me what my mother and father had in common before my epiphany I would have had very few words. However, in the 18 years that I can recall from their 27 year marriage, that have always shared the same goals. I can truthfully say that at every family meeting and new year goal setting sit down the two of them always agreed on the direction the family would go. Now, their action plan to get there during the 364 days following would make you think they were on two different pages, but together they have one college grad, two college students, and a 16 year old in high school.They never got a call from the cops, had an issue with drugs and all of us show a commitment to God.  Their COMMITMENT to their goals have been proven by their results.

Common goals, certainly is not unique to the powerful couple, Barack and Michelle Obama, that many have come to adore.

But getting back to the most important relationship that you can have…God wants you to be happy, successful, stress free, in good health and more! If you desire those same things I think you found the friend you’ve been looking for. 


God is my #1 Priority, following is my family and friends, then comes my music, my health and goal to live comfortably.   Not only could someone who doesn't share these interests and goals not make me happy, but I would have to accept that I cannot make them happy too! 
 
I will definitly come back to this topic after I study the word of God, relating to relationships some more.
 
I pray that you will seek God first and trust that the rest will be added!  In Jesus name I pray, Amen!